Wednesday, December 13, 2006
torn
Lately I find myself torn. Livy is going through a phase where she wants to be with me at all times. Actually not just with me but on me. She is constatnly wrapped around my leg if i'm standing and drapped over me if i'm sitting. No matter where we go or what we are doing she is glued to me. Part of me wants to hold on tight and never let go (she is my last baby after all) but then the other part of me just gets so frustrated and just wants to have a few minutes to myself. Some times I find myself telling her to just go play or just leave me alone for a few minutes and then I feel so guilty because I know in only a few short years i'll be begging her to hold my hand. So i'm torn...She is almost 2 1/2. A "big girl" in so many ways and yet little in many ways too. She is so different then Nadia. nadia has always been so out going and really could care less if i'm around or not (except for the 1st 19 months of her life when she's scream if anyone else held her). Olivia is so much more shy and timid. She feels safe with me and the love just pours out of her when she looks in my eyes. So I'm torn...do I hold her and hug her and snuggle her all the time or is it time that I start trying to get her more comfortable on her own?
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It is hard isn't it? Leah is near the name age as Olivia, and I find she is the same way. I actually think sometimes them being the second child makes it a bit harder, becouse they always have someone around. I know when Lexi first started pre school, Leah was just so lost without her. It has actually been better now, as she is starting to learn how to entertian herself without her sister.
It is normal to feel torn. They grow up so quickly and you know that it will not last, but at the same time, you need to get things done and have a few minutes to youself.
I'd start out with small tasks. Maybe unload the dishwasher (if you have one) while she sits at the table and does an activity by herself.(colouring?) Let her know that you are still there if she needs you, but that you have to get the dishes put away.
Leah is usually pretty good with that, as long as she is in the same room as I am. Lexi is a lot like Nadia in that way, she was always an independant little girl and i get very few suggles from her.lol So i'd say, do a bit of both, enjoy the snuggles, but let her know that mummy needs to do some 'house blessings' too. ;)
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